Own sense of nonsense

A few times lately I’ve been having conversations where I’ve ended up saying things like:

“… that would make sense to me.”

For instance, yesterday I was having a conversation about physical passion, and how it would make sense to me that I’d be experiencing an upswing in passion at a time when my life was taking a dramatically positive turn.

A similar thing happened last year when I was describing my emotional reactions to a friend how asked:

“… and is that normal for you?”

I don’t mean it like, it makes sense definitively, or it’s normal, definitively, reasonably speaking, rationally.

There’s common sense, as in the sense we all agree on - approved socially, at large.

(The thing you’ll find about common sense is how few people actually agree on it. We love to say this about other people, how we would have expected them to do things differently by applying common sense, ie what to us would have been The Most Obvious Approach).

But really, there’s so little that people agree on.

And there is a power in the things that make sense to you, right now, just because they do.

That’s your intuition. It’s your internal law. It’s your view of the world, your reality, the synchronicity that you see between cause and effect. In some ways, most ways, this matters more in your world than common sense does - because you believe it. It’s your individual logic. It may or may not be “realistic” in the extent to which it chimes in with “reality” at large, the laws of physics, “logic” at large, “common sense” at large. It may or may not “work out” for that reason - ie, have the results you anticipated. Sometimes that matters and sometimes it doesn’t - it depends how attached you are to the results. You may get different results from what you expected, perhaps even ones that you can work with better, and that’s fine.

My friend gave me an enormous gift by introducing the concept of normal for me.

As opposed to:

• normal for other people, my friends, my circle

• normal for the world at large

• normal as I’d perceive it coming through popular media

• crazy, for me

• unbalanced, for me

• unhealthy, for me

• dangerous, for me

• bearable in a functioning sense, for me

Truth is* you have no obligation to perceive reality** the way you perceive other people perceiving it.

“Normal” is a construct, the way that “success” is a construct, “acceptable” is a construct.

You have no obligation to be any of these things. You are not a construct. You’re you.

*(there is no truth) **(there is no reality)